People-Pleasing Ka Sach

 Kya Tum Bhi Logon Ko Khush Karne Mein Expert Ho? – People-Pleasing Ka Sach

"Arey yaar, usne bola toh haan bol diya..."

"Main ‘no’ bolta toh bura lagta usse..."

Agar tu bhi aise sochta hai, toh welcome to the club – People-Pleasers Anonymous.

People-pleasing ek aisi aadat hai jahan hum khud ke comfort, time, aur feelings ko ignore karke doosron ko khush karne mein lage rehte hain. Shuruaat mein ye selfless lagta hai, lekin dheere-dheere ye tumhari mental peace chura leta hai.

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1. People-Pleaser Ki Pehchaan:

Har baat pe "haan" kehna, chahe mann na ho

Doosron ke mood ke liye khud ko blame karna

Apni needs ko hamesha ignore karna

"Agar maine mana kiya toh log kya sochenge?" wali soch

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2. Kya Bura Hai Isme?

Dekha jaaye toh dusron ki madad karna achha hai, lekin jab tum apni boundaries tod ke dusron ke expectations poore karne lago, toh wo self-respect ka loss ban jaata hai.

Log tumhari aadat bana lete hain. Aur phir tumhe ‘nice’ label milta hai, lekin andar se burnout, frustration aur guilt bhar jaata hai.

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3. Log Kyun Karte Hain People-Pleasing?

Rejection ka darr

Childhood se approval-seeking habit

Apne aap ko dusron ke pyaar ke layak sabit karne ki koshish

Conflict avoid karna

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4. Kaise Nikle Is Chakkar Se?

Boundaries set karna seekho – “No” kehna ek skill hai, aur zaroori bhi.

Self-worth samjho – tumhara value sirf dusron ke liye kitna karte ho, usse define nahi hota.

Jinhe bura lagta hai, wo waise bhi tumhare nahi hai – true log tumhari limits respect karenge.

Apni needs ko priority do – tumhara peace sabse pehle aata hai.

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Conclusion:

Logon ko khush karna galat nahi, lekin khud ko dukh deke khushi dena kabhi sahi nahi. Tum option nahi ho, priority ho – sabse pehle apne liye stand lena seekho. Kyunki agar tum khud ko khush nahi rakh sakte, toh baaki logon ke liye bhi fake smile ke alawa kuch nahi bachega.

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